The more experience I had consciously trying to "change" things, the more I realized that in order to affect big changes, a person simply needs to take individual action. My individual action, I decided, was to become a lawyer.
I think a lot of women learn from their mothers how to behave in the world. Sometimes we learn from talking, sometimes from just watching. My mother was a woman who made her own decisions. She didn't make a big fuss about something before she did it. She would think about something, make a decision, and act. When I was in the fifth grade, she opened her own restaurant. It was something she had dreamed about for a long time. She took her time raising me and my two younger sisters and when she was ready, she rented a space, bought the equipment, hired one person to help her, and within two months, she was in business.