Submitted by Amy Wegner Kho
Recently I’ve read several career books, including Lean In and another great book named Start. As I read these books, I contemplated all of the ways that as women we hesitate and don’t lean into our career. We may worry about trying to do it all, having both career and a family. We may hesitate about asking for more because we don’t want to offend our supervisor. As I read these books I realized that there were several things that hold me back, and hold a lot of women back. Fear and Waiting.
There have been studies about how many negative thoughts women have every day. We have negative thoughts about our bodies, about our relationships, about our dreams, and yes, even about our careers. In Start, Jon Acuff writes that these negative thoughts are actually fear.
Those voices of fear and doubt tell us a myriad of lies. For me, I wonder how I even was admitted to law school. I fear that all of the other students are smarter than me. The voices of doubt tell me that I was admitted to law school simply because there was some “blonde, white girl” quota that the admissions office needed to fill. My fears include like: I’ll never pass the bar exam; that I’ll never find legal job after graduation; that I’ll look at my family and they’ll tell me that I failed as a wife and mother.