By Crystal Elaine Ellison • January 29, 2020•Writers in Residence
Welcome to my first blog of 2020! Within the first month of the year my home team, the Kansas City Chiefs, managed an astonishing victory, basketball legend, Kobe Bryant’s sudden death rocked the nation, and the impeachment trial of the 45th president of the United States has commenced. I have managed to bring in the New Year with a mammoth caseload, a whopping 150 criminal cases at the Public Defender’s office. What a mixed emotional January it has been! I’m completely ambivalent to what this New Year will bring. The kickoff to the New Year has produced so many different emotions and reactions.
Each of the above mentioned events deserves my attention in some capacity, but how much attention can I truly give each situation without sacrificing obligations? The truth is, I’m still a mother and practicing attorney. I have a family and clients that depend on me daily. God, my family, and my career, come first. As much as I would love to catch the first flight to Miami for the Super Bowl game (because I totally would), it’s not feasible. As a mother, I can’t just catch a flight. What about my children? As a practicing attorney, what about my clients? Eagerness and anxiousness takes over as I am yearning to learn what technicality, operational or electrical failure cost the lives of 9 beautiful people on January 26, 2020. As time passes and history is created, I’m forced to attempt to stay informed, sometimes to a fault.
However, investing my time into working up my cases and spending “quality” time with my family are top priorities. Quality is emphasized in that as a parent, spending quality time with your children, spouse and friends truly is an art. It’s not simply about watching your children play with dolls or cars. It’s about teaching your one year old where his eyes, nose, mouth and ears are located. It’s about having a conversation about love and kindness with your 8 year old daughter while painting her nails red with Chiefs spelled on them. It’s about taking your daughter to church and teaching her how to sing along with the children’s choir so that she can join, because after all, she says she sounds just like Whitney—the legendary Whitney Houston. It’s about teaching your son how to give hugs and say “I love you”, versus hitting when he’s told “no”. These little bodies, I have to invest in.
This month I’ve decided to reincorporate healthy habits, habits that guaranteed my success in the past when striving to manage my “super-self” and staying focused. What can I say, I’m becoming a neologist. Super-self, meaning an attempt to be superb in every aspect of my life, understanding that I’ll fall short at times. What have I decided?
I’ve decided to:
- attend church regularly,
- reignite (not in the literal sense) weekend movie nights with my daughter,
- drink more water,
- read something other than discovery in my cases
- take breakfast and lunch to work every day, and
- appreciate my down time and use it to rejuvenate
Always stay focused, some things can wait, others can’t. Wishing the Kansas City Chiefs the ultimate victory next Sunday, the good book says “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9