By Anonymous • August 14, 2007•Issues, Balancing Private and Professional Life
How could anyone possibly resist this face?
I know what you're thinking- what does a cat have to do with a post about mother and a lawyer? Well for me, my pets are often what spawns these thoughts about life balance. When I look at the face of my cats and dogs with their sad eyes and the "please don't leave me" look, I feel riddled with guilt. So what happens if I ever have kids? How will I feel when I have to leave them?
Most of the talk on this site has been about how to do it all- how you can balance and still make partner while you have kids, or what we can do to better improve the workplace to make that possible for women. But my question is this: does it really matter? Even if I can work less or part time even and still make partner, how will I cope with the guilt of leaving my kids behind even for a short time? And what about the guilt to co-workers who have to pick up the slack? And even if I can get past those two things, will I ever be satisfied with not being able to give 100 percent to my career and my kids?
So I guess my question is for those who are currently working mothers- is it a lose-lose situation? If you work full time, do you miss your kids and feel incredibly guilty for leaving them? If you don't work, do you feel like you've lost yourself and the career that you spent all this time working for? If you are managing both kids and a job, is that really making you happy? I feel this sense of dispair that no matter what route I choose, the future is full of feeling guilty about one thing or another because there just aren't enough hours in a day. Am I wrong? Is there a way to balance both and be happy at the same time?