By T S • November 22, 2014
What to do when someone you know has problems with drugs
If you have a suspicion that a family member or a friend has an addiction or a drug problem, consider the following few tips of what you could do to help:
- Speak up about the issue. Speak to the attorney about concerns, offer help in the form of support, and do your best to not show that you are being judgmental. This comes with a caveat as you need to be a little judgmental to speak up, but you can do it in a way that shows that you care for them and accept them even though there is a problem. Earlier addressing of the problem means that the drug addiction could be treated and possibly nipped in the bud better to keep it from destroying their career in law. Do not wait for rock bottom! Speak now and do not hold your peace! You might know that you should be ready for excuses as well as flat out denial. You could consider listing examples of specific times when your friend or loved one has demonstrated behavior which has you worried and concerned.
- Do not try to carry their entire load, helping means you have to still care for your own needs. Do not become so entrenched in the addiction problems of someone else that you fail to address your own physical and emotional needs. By making sure people are around in your life that can also speak to as well as lean on and get support, you will keep yourself safe. Do not allow yourself to yourself be put into any compromising or dangerous situations, either.
- Do not blame yourself for their issues. Lend support to them without taking the problems on yourself. Offer encouragement and encourage treatment. Realize that you cannot force someone to change and an addiction is not an easy thing to beat, nor does an addict always realize or believe they have an addiction. You also cannot control their decisions. Tell them that you them and that as they accept their responsibility, they’ll be on the path to beating it.
- Don’t try to threaten, punish, preach or bribe.
- Don’t try out for the job of martyr. Do not use emotional appeals which may increase emotions of compulsion and guilt that prompt more drug-use.
- Don’t make excuses or cover up for the abuser. While you should consider their career and not attempt to be vindictive or invite punishment or sanction, etc, you should also not attempt to shield your friend or loved one from consequences that stem from drug addiction behavior.
- Don’t take over responsibilities which would leave feeling less. A good attorney needs to be busy to feel worthwhile.
- Don’t throw out or hide drugs unless they ask you to do it. Some loved ones or colleagues will request that someone they trust take charge of certain types of prescription medication in order to keep them from being tempted into an abusive situation.
- Don’t argue when a person is under the influence.
- Don’t feel responsible or guilty for their behavior.