
Finding a Safe Harbor Mentor
By Ms. JD • June 17, 2009•Other Career Issues
Ed. Note: The following article, by April A. Christine, comes to Ms. JD from the Los Angeles Lawyer.
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A safe harbor mentor serves as a trusted counselor or teacher—someone to whom the protégé can ask questions, seek guidance, bounce ideas, and discuss issues one would not normally discuss with a supervisor. Providing a safe harbor, however, is not to be confused with harboring misconduct. Mutual trust in a safe harbor relationship is essential. A safe harbor mentor should also not be put in an advocacy or mediator role between the protégé and his or her supervisor. Instead, a safe harbor mentor guides the mentee in making sound professional decisions.
A mentor can be assigned, but a safe harbor relationship is more likely developed with time and familiarity. Whether the mentor is a former employer or more experienced colleague, effective mentors often counsel and guide behind the scenes. Mentors who formally contribute to the administrative performance process may not be able to function as a true safe harbor because the dual function of mentor and evaluator may defeat the purpose of a safe harbor. A mentor also need not be publicly identified and may be in a better position to facilitate introductions likely to lead to networking and other professional opportunities by functioning behind the scenes.
Supporting a protégé’s professional endeavors reflects on the mentor as well as the mentee. Therefore, it behooves the protégé to build traits that make one attractive to a prospective mentor. First, a desirable mentee is responsive, prompt, and organized. It is true that first impressions are lasting. There is nothing more frustrating or off-putting than calling a protégé and not receiving a response, or receiving a delayed response with no plausible excuse. A desirable protégé is also one who is self-motivated, disciplined, and willing to take action. While a protégé is not obligated to act on the mentor’s advice, demonstrating that the advice had a meaningful impact on the protégé’s decision encourages the mentor to continue providing a safe harbor.
A desirable protégé has a strong work ethic and demonstrates internal motivation, which can come from developing a benchmark of productivity. This benchmark creates a buffer in a cutthroat competitive environment. Insecure competitors build themselves up by tearing others down, but this type of competition is limiting because one only rises as high as the other falls. Keeping an internal benchmark allows the protégé to rise as high as his or her capability dictates.
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Another factor in developing an effective safe harbor relationship is confidentiality. A safe harbor is effective if both parties are confident that conversations will remain confidential. Maintaining confidentiality allows for candid dialogue and allows the mentor to freely disclose professional and personal information without fear that confidences will be disseminated.
A third factor in developing a safe harbor relationship is keeping in contact with the mentor. This often means initiating contact and suggesting meetings. This allows the mentor to guide the protégé’s professional development and speak knowledgeably about the mentee to others. While there may be other important factors in developing a safe harbor relationship, the key is being flexible and adaptable and allowing the relationship to grow naturally. For the mentee who shows trustworthiness and respect, the benefits in developing a successful safe harbor relationship are immeasurable. ■
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