By Kate A From Women Lawyers News • September 10, 2018
If you’ve ever thought…
- I can’t do this.
- These people are smarter than me.
- I’m not going to make it.
- I don’t know what I’m doing.
- I don’t really belong here.
- I’m an imposter, and someone is going to figure that out.
- I’m not smart enough.
- I wish I was that healthy/smart/put together/confident/well-dressed/successful/good at marketing.
…you are not alone. Sadly, these ugly thoughts are way too common for many of us.
Fortunately, understanding them a little better can help; and you can also download this Cheatsheet for Quickly Killing Ugly Thoughts in 60 Seconds or Less.
Let’s start by understanding some of these thoughts. For example, if you ever feel like you’re the only one that doesn’t really know what she’s doing, like everyone else is nailing it, that there’s something wrong with you or you’re not good enough, even though somehow you still ended up here anyway, like you’ve fooled everyone so far but that soon they might figure it out…you are not alone. That’s called Imposter Syndrome, and it’s surprisingly common. Many people feel that way but few people realize that others feel the same way.
It’s also common to feel like you can’t tackle what’s in front of you, which often happens when we are overwhelmed by something new, complex, or with too many moving parts. It feels like what we’re facing is insurmountable so we throw up or hands and freak out a bit.
You may also notice when others are doing something particularly well on a given day, whether they argued a motion well or just looked a little more put together than you that day. We tend to make unfair and illogical comparisons, focusing on the one thing that one other person is doing better than us that day without thinking about the big picture and how we, or they, are doing overall.
More importantly, let’s do something about these thoughts! Easier said than done? Actually, not really, you just need the right tool – grab your Cheatsheet for Quickly Killing Ugly Thoughts in 60 Seconds or Less (and keep it handy)!
Then, shoot me a DM on Instagram, and let me know which of these thoughts is bugging you right now.
PS – Here’s another way to handle negative thoughts.