Today on NBC's today show they did a segment that is very typical of their format. The segment was about married couples where the woman earns more than the man. In light of the fact that most women practicitioners that I know make more than their husbands/partners, I have a couple of lingering questions for the group. In the piece, the host and the guest agreed that the equation of money=power=masculinity doesn't make logical sense to the women that are the breadwinners in their relationship. Still, they argued, the equation was a common emotional feeling. Do you think that money=power=masculinity? Given the fact that most married couples fight about money, the first part of the equation might in fact be correct and simply be a effect of our society's revolution around money. (This only holds up, however, as long as more money brings more benefit. At the point where additional money doesn't get you anything, the power of money goes away.) The second arm of the equation however, doesn't have to be so. While cultural, for some, I view this claim as something that I can overcome in my logical brain. However, I also think that I can overcome the social pressures that the equation implies in life as well as in my head. They also claimed that "most" women have a "Cinderella Complex" which was described as a desire to find a Prince Charming that will protect them and provide for them. Do you have a Cinderella Complex? When I look inside, I don't. Yes, I want my husband to squish a big spider in the kitchen. Yes, I want him to make sure the satellite installation guy doesn't ruin the roof. But, I don't have a problem reconciling those things with me making more money than him. I would agree with what a woman they had on tape said, "As long as the bills are paid, who cares?". Exactly, who cares? Finally, who's problem is this? The woman's? The couple? Who will fix it?
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