By Brenda L. George • December 09, 2017•Writers in Residence, Issues, Balancing Private and Professional Life
I had two finals this week, but i didn't go to them. Instead, I spent the week at home with my family, freshly a family of four. Our son, Landon Lee George arrived on December 1, 2017 at 11:20 p.m., the Friday before finals, and the last day of classes. I had a final scheduled for Tuesday and Thursday this week. I still have a final scheduled for Tuesday next week, and a paper due Friday. I hope to make it to the final and turn in my paper, but we'll see how things go. My son will be two weeks old when the semester officially ends. If I sit for that exam, it will be the first time I have been away from him longer than a few minutes since he was born.. And, I will likely have to nurse him in the middle of the exam. I hope to find someone to come with me to be with him while I take the exam.
As a result of having given birth, my other finals have been postponed and I will take them some time between now and the start of Spring Semester. I am so grateful for the opportunity to do that so that I can focus on what is most important right now: my family. We are settling in with a newborn and trying to figure out what our life as four is like (and that changes daily if you ask me!). Some people have said that it's too bad I didn't make it through some of my finals before the baby arrived, but I am not convinced that would have been better considering the state I was int he entire week before I went into labor. Sure, in a perfect world, it would have been nice to get through my finals and then go into labor. But pregnancy and childbirth are so unpredictable.
My point here is that there is no perfect time for a baby to arrive, and at the same time, their arrival is so perfect. Here, our son was nine days early and those nine days provided me with so much relief from my late pregnancy discomfort. I honestly don't know how effective I would have been taking a final this week at 39 weeks pregnant. My recovery this pregnancy has been incredibly smooth, especially compared to my first pregnancy.
Our first son was due 1L year about three weeks after spring semester finals were complete, so I was able to finish all of them. He arrived early as well, but twelve days after finals. My recovery that pregnancy was not nearly as smooth and the thought of having to postpone finals with that pregnancy and try to reschedule prior to the start of summer semester seems impossible when I think back on it.
Things have a funny way of working themselves out.
***This is my last blog post as a Ms. JD Writer in Residence. I may still post here, as time permits. But as I said above, I need to focus on what is most important right now: my family. Graduation and Bar Prep are nearing as well. Thank you to everyone that has read my blog. And a special thank you to everyone that has supported me throughout my law school journey as a mother of two.