By Ashley Rutherford • June 03, 2011•Women and Law in the Media
I have not posted for several months. My life has been turned upside-down, and I have never been happier. For one, I got engaged to my soulmate in December, and we are planning an October wedding. Secondly, with his support and encouragement and after deep thought, I decided to pursue my real dream. . . to go out on my own.
I joined a friend from law school that is running a small, successful law firm. His partner was taking the California bar exam, and he wanted me to join in as a named partner. Our law firm name - Campinha-Bacote & Chang, LLC - is now Campinha-Bacote & Starling, LLC. Starling reflects my soon-to-be married last name.
This was an extremely difficult decision for me. I've been practicing a couple of years, and, like many others, all of my professional and personal accomplishments have been achieved as Ashley Rutherford. Additionally, being independent and proud of who I am, I have had a hard time giving up that part of me. I could hyphenate, but if I did, my signature block would be so long, I would literally have to start it in the center of the page. So, after careful consideration, I have decided to assume my husband's last name and after a small transition time, drop "Rutherford".
My decision also became part of news article this week. I have attached the article. I would love to know everyone's thoughts. The article argues that less women are keeping their maiden name because these women believe that they have achieved equality. However, that is not the reason that chose to change my name.
I chose to change my name because I think of marriage as a team. It is my opinion that the team should all have the same team name. I want children, and my children will also have the team name. However, my decision has very little to do with my thoughts on equality.
Thus, I wanted to hear your thoughts. . .