The Closed Door - A Reflection

Think about a time you were told no. Think about how it made you feel and why it made you feel that way. Now think about how you maneuvered this situation. Did you used that no as a stepping stone to better yourself or did you allow the no to make you feel as though you were helpless and/or stuck? Was the no impactful to the point that you ruminated on the event or did you forget about it right after it happened?

As a law student, NO is one of the most frustrating words I can hear. Whether it is a no after responding to a question in class or a no from a potential employer, it seems as though a simple no has the power to bring a cloud of negativity that leaves a lingering feeling of hopelessness.

As someone who rarely heard no before attending law school, it was beyond frustrating to hear it in the beginning. It is amazing how an unassuming word like no has the power to make you question yourself and your value. Sometimes no makes you question if you are as capable as you think you are and in a lot of ways, a no feels like a closed door creating an obstacle along your journey.     

However, in a lot of ways, no is one of the best words I have heard. It is something about being told no that ignites a fire inside of me to be the best version of myself. It is a reminder that there is always work to be done and to never leave anything on the table. One of the best pieces of advice I have received is that once you have done your best, you must be okay with that. This advice is a reminder that things don’t always go our way but that if you have done your best, that is all you can do.

What I have found so far along this journey is that when one door closes, you must always be comfortable finding an alternative route. So, I am going to ask you to join me in a moment of reflecting on a time you overcame an obstacle. Now use this feeling along your journey to remember that a no is not the end of the road, but in many instances, is the beginning of something greater. 

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