By Kate A From Women Lawyers News • January 09, 2019•Issues, Balancing Private and Professional Life
I’ve noticed that when I talk to other women they never feel like they have enough time to get everything done. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you have even been stuck like this for years. The women I talk to say they need to fix it but they never seem to make progress.
Why is that?
You probably won’t be surprised to hear that if you feel like you don’t have enough time, and you want to fix it, you need to either have less stuff to do or find a way to work more efficiently.
Of course, right?
I mean, imagine that I’m pouring water into a glass while you’re drinking out of that same glass with a straw. That glass of water is all the stuff you have to get done every day. The only way for you to fix that problem is to either take some water out of the glass or figure out how to drink more efficiently.
So then why, if we know this, if we know those are the two ways to solve the “I never have enough time.” problem, why are we all still running like a hamster on a wheel, juggling all the things, stressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, never able to keep up, and feeling behind in everything?
There are three main reasons why we stay stuck this way, why we still don’t have enough time to get it all done, even though we know what will fix it:
- We know what will fix it but we don’t know how.
The first reason is that, if we’re being honest, we have no idea how to dial down the amount of stuff we have to do or how to work more efficiently, right? We try little things here and there to chip away at the problem, to try to address these two issues, but it never gets much better. The truth is this stuff is really hard. You shouldn’t know how to do these things! You probably feel like you should, but I bet no one every taught you how to eliminate the number of things you have to do, how you, personally, can work more efficiently, what will work for you specifically. We’re never taught that, so if you’ve tried over and over to fix this, to find balance, and it hasn’t worked, there’s nothing wrong with you – now stop right here because I really want you to hear that.I’m guessing you’re the overachiever type, so you probably beat yourself up when you don’t get enough done, maybe you even feel like a failure when you can’t check everything off your list. Today, I want you to give yourself a break from all that, really, really let it go, right now pause, take a deep breath and recognize that it’s not your fault and you’re definitely not alone. You just need someone to show you, step-by-step, what you actually need to do. I’m here to do that for you.
- We expect to-do lists and planners to fix it.
To-do lists and planners are a quick fix, they don’t work by themselves. We put too much pressure on them and expect them to magically solve the problem. Maybe you’ve felt even the optimistic rush that happens when you buy a new planner or download a new to-do app. But they’re just one tiny piece of the much bigger puzzle that you need to put together to go from feeling overwhelmed every day to feeling balanced and accomplished every day.
- We keep trying random productivity tips.
I’ve seen so many women start with random productivity tips then set them aside because they don’t click with you or don’t fit into a larger system that works for you. It’s like you need to build an Ikea bookshelf but I just hand you a few random pieces of particleboard and screws – those random pieces are not going to fit together, and they’re not enough to build the whole bookshelf, so it’s not going to work. Isolated productivity tips are a bandage. Like to-do lists and planners, they can make us feel hopeful for a minute, but they aren’t solving the problem.
And I’d love to see you solve the problem. To see you feel focused, organized, productive, in control, and accomplished every day. With enough time for the people and things that are important to you, for moving your big goals forward, for side projects and hobbies.
I don’t want to see you stuck in overwhelm. If you don’t fix this, you’ll keep plowing through, you’ll get more stressed and miserable over time, your goals will go un-met, time will fly by, your energy and enthusiasm will continuously fade. It will get harder every day, all that stress will affect your health and relationships, and your career will get stale.I don’t want any of that for you.
So let’s take the first step today so you can start seeing some results. Grab this one-page Overwhelmed to Accomplished Assessment, print it, and take a few minutes to uncover where you’re struggling the most, so you know what pieces you need to fix to change your hectic days into balanced, focused, productive ones.
Let me know what you discover!