By Elisa Dun • November 22, 2016•Careers, Law School, Issues, Mentoring and Networking
The legal world, especially for women, can sometimes be very lonely. At least I know it is for me. Unlike many of my fellow law students or legal professionals, becoming a lawyer was not a likely career path for me. No one in my family has ever gone to law school. When I was growing up, my family never talked about law or politics around the dinner table.
Law was also not the path my parents would have chosen for me. As immigrants from Asia, they envisioned a different life for me. A few weeks ago, when I told my parents I passed the New York bar examination, my father’s first reaction was to exclaim, “That’s great! But you still have to get married!” My father’s dream for me is merely to find a nice man with a stable job, get married to him, and settle down. To my father, my having my own career, let alone a legal one, is simply icing on the cake.
Enter blogs like the ones on Ms. JD. Ms. JD blogs help foster a sense of community for female lawyers. For blog writers, it provides a much-needed outlet, allowing them to air their frustrations and declare their hopes and dreams, however big or small, to the world. For readers, it allows them to find a community and realize that they’re not alone in this journey. That slap-on-the-forehead, “Oh my god, I thought it was just me who felt this way—I thought I was crazy or something” realization? Priceless.
A friend of mine recently texted me, lamenting that the roster of newly-made partners at her law firm included only a handful of women. Indeed, it can feel daunting and lonely, being a woman in this industry—whether or not you come from an immigrant family and whether or not you have lawyers in your family. My hope is that by writing on this blog, you know that you’re not alone. My father may be disappointed I’m not married yet, but for me, the best icing on this cake called life is bonding with other professional women and helping each other climb the career ladder.