By Peg Johnston • December 03, 2007•Legal Academia
All I can say is "wow". There is an incredible post titled "Choices, Consequences, Constraints" up on Scatter from this weekend. Click here to read it in its entirety, which I strongly recommend if you are at all interested in some perspective on what it can be like to be a mom and an academic at the same time.
The blogger writes about some of her choices and related emotions in her struggle to be a professional woman and a parent in a situation where both she and her husband worked. The post is gripping in its honesty and at the same time piercing in its revelations about the unfair nature of the burdens placed on mothers by our society. She writes...
The more I worked, the less [the kids] did "constructive" activities. ... I overheard my son once telling a friend that he had the world's most inattentive mother. I pointed out to them that their father also ignored them when he worked, but they did not see him do it because he did it away from home. This did not change their perceptions.
I am not an academic. However, as I read this essay I could really relate. I think for those of us working mothers we know the truth behind the words, "I spent a lot of those years exhausted and angry." For those readers who aren't mothers, some of this woman's story may be shocking and may be something that you will respond to by saying to yourself, "I'll never be the sort of mother who ignores her child's request for lunch!" That is why I recommend reading it -- Life is "Choices, Consequences, and Constraints." No matter what anyone says, it isn't easy. It's actually very hard.
Thanks to the Feminist Law Profs for the reference and link.