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Anna

How to Avoid Crying at Work [Part 1 of 3]

Last week I linked to a lively discussion of crying in public. In a comment, CM asked how to prevent crying at inappropriate moments. Sintecho asked me the same thing a couple weeks back. So I've rounded up a bunch of bona fide face-savers plus a myth to debunk. From research and my all-too-personal experience, here are twelve ways to avoid tears at work. · Focus on your breathing· Take a step back· Cauterize your tear ducts· Distract yourself with pain· Use props · Let yourself get angry· Try behavioral modification· Do it for somebody else· Forge ahead· Just ignore…

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Anna

Wonder what damage your high heels are doing?

Thanks to Lisa at Sociological Images: Seeing Is Believing, you can see all the damage your work shoes are doing to your feet--in gory, glorious detail. [Hat tip to LawGeek.] Here's a direct link to the full-size image, so you don't have to go blind squinting at your screen. Those stilettos are going to give you enough health problems to deal with already.P.S. Here's a hint for healing that heel-related pain!

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Anna

Five Tips for Commuting While Pregnant (and Afterward)

If you missed it, on Friday the Wall Street Journal Juggle blog asked readers to comment on commuting while pregnant. What resulted was a long, long thread of horror stories (from pregnant women forced to stand for long subway rides while fellow passengers feigned sleep) punctuated with a few friendlier tales and lot of people admonishing each other to be more courteous. If you are looking for commiseration, head to the Juggle blog. If you are looking for solutions, just scroll down! I read through the thread to glean tips for Ms. JD readers. Five tips for commuting while pregnant…

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Anna

How to Avoid Crying at Work [Part 3 of 3]

In previous posts (Part 1 and Part 2), I outlined eight ways to avoid crying at work. The techniques were mainly preventive, although some of them could also be used to hurry past tears after you've started crying. (In such situations, for instance, it might still help to take a step back or focus on your breathing.) My last four tips are different. They won't help you completely avoid crying. These are last resorts for handling tears that come out despite your best efforts. · Forge ahead· Just ignore it· Deflect with a white lie· Be honest and direct Different…

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Anna

How to Avoid Crying at Work [Part 2 of 3]

Previously I described four ways to avoid crying at work: focusing on your breathing, taking a step back, cauterizing your tear ducts, and distracting yourself with pain. Here are four more tricks for preventing tears...· Use props · Let yourself get angry· Try behavioral modification· Do it for somebody else An explanation of when, how, and why each technique works follows after the jump... 5. Use props.Prepare an agenda for your meeting, a physical piece of paper that you can set on the desk in front of you or hold in your hands. If that doesn't fit the situation, you…

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lawblogger

Can you be likable and still get ahead?

I read Are You Living Your Life Like You're Planning to Fail on Ms. JD the other day and thought of it immediately when I read this article in the New York Times on the imposter phenomenon. The imposter phenomenon was coined by two therapists in the 1970s "to describe the internal experience of a group of high-achieving women who had a secret sense they were not as capable as others thought." Now, researchers have found that men and women of all ages experience the imposter phenomenon, which basically means you think you've achieved your success because of being lucky…

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jessie

Are You Living Your Life Like You’re Planning to Fail?

I think many of us introduce ourselves, our ideas, and our work with any number of disclaimers: "maybe this is a stupid question, but..."; "I don't know that much about this, but..."; "I'm probably wrong, but..." I think I couch my viewpoints as a way to avoid appearing confrontational or as a way to mitigate the perception of error - that is, if my substantive contribution is correct, then great, but if not, then at least I predicted that and got something right. I have come to understand that neither possible benefit outweighs the cost paid in how I am…

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Anna

Facing the FACTS

Over the past six weeks, Deborah Epstein Henry of Flex-Time Lawyers has been circulating a new work/life methodology called FACTS. She tells me that it "enables law firm lawyers to meet firms' demands while also giving them new work/life balance choices within the billable hour structure." Her introductory article, Facing the FACTS: Introducing Work/Life Choices for All Firm Lawyers Within the Billable Hour Model, was featured in the New York Times and Legal Blog Watch. She has been doing presentations of her new work at firms up and down the eastern seaboard, including this one yesterday at White and Case,…

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Anna

Perspectives Quarterly (from the ABA Commission on Women in the Profession)

http://www.abanet.org/women/perspectives.htmlAlyson Meiselmanw writes to us: I'm a member of the ABA Commission on Women in the Profession andthe Chair of the Publications Committee. Our committee is interested indeveloping and publishing a new publication of interest to and focusedtoward younger women attorneys. I would be delighted to discuss withyou how we can meet your needs, as you have expressed in the messagesbelow, and fulfill our need to reach out to young women lawyers in aneffort to both increase the number of women members of the ABA andincrease the number of women leadership positions, and, make the ABArelevant in your practices. I joined the…

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Anna

The Bowditch Institute for Women’s Success

Wow, it feels like "Lauren Stiller Rikleen" Week here at Ms. JD, between Beth's review of her book and Elizabeth's post about ___________ http://www.bowditchinstitute.com/home.html [review website]

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