PaulaMJones

Everything Nobody Ever Told Me: How To Deal with a Perfectionist

“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor.” – Anne Lamott Have you ever encountered the kind of people who expect the impossible from others?  They view anything less than perfection as a failure.  They hyper-focus on your mistakes and they never seem to notice all the things that you do right.  You, my friend, have encountered a perfectionist.  While at first blush this term may seem like a compliment, the reality is that it is not.  Perfectionists should really be called “imperfectionists” because they don’t look for the perfection in others - they look for their imperfections.  There is a…

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Everything Nobody Ever Told Me: Is Self-Employment For You?

Being a self-employed means you work 12 hours a day for yourself so you don't have to work 8 hours a day for someone else. - Oliver Markus Malloy After twenty years at law firms, I left with my book of business and opened up my own practice.  Words  really can’t express the sheer happiness I have experienced since then.  I bill fewer hours but take home significantly higher compensation.  I actually enjoy practicing law again.  I am finally able to combine my international practice with my love of travel, resulting in more trips abroad to meet with clients and…

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Everything Nobody Ever Told Me: When To Say ‘No Thanks”

"You cannot swim for new horizons until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore."  William Faulkner When I first graduated from law school I had a successful interview at a small firm.  We discussed employment terms, including salary and a start date and they told me they would send a formal offer letter.  The letter never arrived and after leaving several phone messages over the next few weeks, I finally was told that the firm was not going to hire anyone new.  I still remember the devastation I felt after finally realizing that my very first job…

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The Best Career Advice I’ve Ever Received: Don’t Succumb To Self-Doubt

An associate in a small firm reached out to me because she was having difficulty after only two years in practice.  She worked for a partner whom she described as “really smart”.  She said that the partner expected her to know a lot more than she did.  When she asked for help, she was criticized for asking.  No matter how hard she tried, she only received negative feedback.  She felt like she just couldn’t win, no matter what she did.  I knew the partner she worked for to have a very difficult personality, so none of what the associate recounted…

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